Hello fellow Parents,
Hope you are having a good time while raising kids!
In my previous post, I had shared about the importance of aliveness while parenting and bringing aliveness in relationships through various ways. One major aspect that was part of my previous blog was Self growth. Is it required or not, while you are totally occupied and absorbed in parenting your kids?
|Self-Growth of Parents- Is it required?|
Self growth or personal growth includes attaining understanding about yourself, your strengths and weakness and the ways in which you try achieve your full potential. It also includes-
-acquiring new skills and habits,
-letting go of such habits or thought process that dis-empower you or adversely influence your effectiveness
- embracing new way of life that invites happiness and abundance for you and people that matter to you.
Parenting versus Self-Growth
|Which one would you choose- Parenting or Self-growth or both?|
With so much to do while raising kids, is thinking about Self-growth means being selfish? At times, 24 hours seem to be less to take care of kids, manage the household chores, grocery shopping, school visits, home assignments, bill payments and what not. The stay at home parent or working parent, both find difficult to breathe and take a break. Amid this, thinking about own self sounds crazy, isn't it?
In addition, you would agree that parenting and managing home leave lesser time for personal time or pursuing some interest. That brings in tiredness, dip in self-esteem, disconnect with the friends, separated with real world developments and may sometimes lead to hopelessness.
While feeling empty within, can we really contribute much in the lives of our kids and family?
We are no doubt, working hard to make things possible for family but deep down in heart, there is certain desire to do something for ourselves. Non-fulfillment of the same causes low self-esteem, depression, guilt, and sadness, especially when the better half is not even aware about what you are feeling like and you are under the burden of your own created feelings.
That is where, SELF GROWTH can change the whole scenario. Your attention to your existence and your development charges you up with hope, energy and assertiveness. In several ways, when you actually work for your personal growth, it shows up in your presence, your behavior and definitely in your family environment. Believe me, that inspires your kids too!
The Inspiring Wedding speech of Shashi
in movie- "English Vinglish"
"English Vinglish" is my favorite movie wherein the lead character, Shashi ( actress Sridevi) is dealing with a lot- lack of empathy from husband, no recognition of her contribution, callous attitude of her daughter, struggle to carry forward her hobby of making sweets.
As she is not able to speak English language, her own family ridicules her and makes fun of her. But with grit, she manages to come out of her situation when she visits USA for her niece wedding. Here, she learns the language and delivers wedding speech in English, which is a real inspiration for all.
Sharing with you video of her speech-
Her speech holds the inspiration for anyone who feels undervalued and ignored. That is the time to be your own guide and bounce back with confidence. I can relate to her speech in the video as at some point of time, I was surrounded with sadness and no hope for bright future. I picked myself up started writing and then blogging and now I am leading a team of content writers successfully. This happened when I decided to take a stand for my personal development.
Self-Growth of Parents- How?
As humans, we have huge scope of personal development, going beyond our barriers, our old school of thought and embracing new approach to life. At human level, we are prone to procrastination, regrets, hopelessness, lack of confidence, self-doubt and preconceived notions. That affects our parenting style with limited contribution to quality of life of our family.
However, once we tread on the path of personal growth, we open up the doors to several new things for ourselves and our kids. So, how to achieve personal growth?
Writing about what made your day beautiful infuses positivism and happiness. Write about your happy moments and the person you would like to thank for act of kindness.
Pursue a hobby
Indulge in something that you enjoy like gardening, dance, knitting, etc., that enhances your skill and provides you an opportunity to feel content.
Connect with positive people
Meet the people who lift you up, inspire you, help you when you feel low and enjoy with you. Stay connected to attract positive flow of thoughts within you.
Check what makes you happy, what triggers you, whatever that stops you or scares you. Observe the reason behind and the impact. Meditate to know more about yourself and to calm your self. You can simply download an app for meditation.
Read a lot
Read motivational books or you may listen a book if you feel less time in hand for reading. Download AUDIBLE in your device and listen to great thinkers, authors and motivational speaker to broaden your vision for life.
Likewise, discover other ways to support yourself, upgrade yourself and witness the transformed human in you, the delightful parent for your kids and inspiring family member!
Bringing aliveness in parenting and relationships