Friday, January 25, 2019

Five parenting tips to impress your kids!

                                                   
Beautiful relation of a parent and child is above all.
Parent and child relationship is the most beautiful of all relations. In bringing up the child, you would often behave like one and enjoy many moments with your kid. However, as the time passes by, the equation between you and your child may change and you may experience a gap. Sometimes, kids stop responding in a respectful way or worse they simply stop caring for what you say. 

You miss those days when you were the best friend of your adorable child and she would share everything with you. However, as she grows up, she does not want your involvement in her life. In fact, she considers it as interference. With such twists in relationships, you may feel alone and helpless. You may be wondering about the reasons and the ways to mend things. 

The equations have changed but everything is not finished yet.

 It is not difficult to maintain a healthy relationship with kids. There can be many difficult phases in the journey of parenting but some rules always succeed to retain the special bond between you and your child.


 Here are some golden parenting tips which would help you to stay close to your children:

 1. Hugs and kisses never fail to warm the hearts. Cuddle your kids when you return from your office or when they return from school. It makes them feel special and wanted. If your child is sick or if she has performed well in something, a loving hug says everything how important she is for you.

Children want attention. In absence of adequate attention from parents, they slowly drift away and engage themselves in their own world. Do not let that happen. Keep them close to your heart and remind them of your unconditional love through hugs and kisses.




 2. Spend quality time with your kids. Join her in her favorite activity like drawing or dancing or reading and have fun with her. It would help her to open up and share her feelings with you. For some time forget you are an adult and simply act like a friend of hers.
 You may also organize a picnic and take your child to the nearby park, beach or zoo. She will always remember the beautiful moments spent with you. If going out is not possible then watch some good kids' movie together while eating popcorn. Reading books together is again a good way to develop bonding between you and your kid.

 3. Encourage your kid in her endeavors and let her make mistakes. Avoid being picky and do not try to control her actions now and then. Your forgiving attitude would help to bring your child closer to you. Remember, your child needs your open-minded support at every step and she is going to adore you for that. Your whole-hearted appreciation in her small efforts will make her successful in big tasks. Ignore small mistakes and appreciate the genuine efforts made by children.

 4. While being firm is important, using offensive language is not required. 
                                                           
Offensive words creates distance between you and your child. Set an example of behavior you expect from your kid.

Try to behave and speak in the manner you would expect your child to assume. Children often pick words and actions from the behavior of their parents. Therefore, if you really want your child to be courteous with you then set an example first.
 You may donate some of your old clothes and things and encourage your child to do the same. This would help the child to develop compassion and respect for other humans. Chivalry and compassion displayed by you at home or outside would instill good values in your kids.

 5. Children love surprises and gifts. 

                                                      
Family outings bring parents and kids closer.

Occasionally, gift your child her favorite games, snacks or books. These need not be related to her academic achievements. Unexpected presents evoke sense of appreciation and affection. The gifts may be small and economical but the impact on the kids is priceless. Alternatively, a surprise outing or sleep overs with their friends is more than welcome and goes a long way in enduring your relation with your growing kids.

 These parenting tips would surely bring you and your child closer and strengthen the special bond between both of you. So, try them and let me know about your experiences.

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Monday, May 28, 2018

Why your kid must learn self defense techniques?

Have your child learned self-defense? Great, if you just said yes!

Enroll today if you still have not.

Are you wondering, with so many extra curricular activities to choose, why would any parent pick a self defense class for his/ her kid?

                                                                 
Self defense in any form is compulsory for kids

Well, most of the classes enhance the creative skills, improve academic performance, develop sports skill or simply helps the kids to stay occupied productively. However, self- defense is one such technique that provides an array of abilities and benefits that stay with your child for life. Want to know about the top benefits of self defense for your kids, then continue reading:


Instills self-confidence

Self-defense helps kids to learn entirely new skill, ranging from easy to difficult levels. The kids acquire enhanced abilities to deal with new people, new situations and adapt in new surroundings. The newly acquired skill instills great confidence in kids to face the world fearlessly.

Boosts self-discipline

Self-defense demands high discipline among the kids to follow the instructions of their instructor such as stand still, wait patiently or turn up for classes regularly on time. The skill helps the kids to improve their dedication and follow discipline.

Develops safety skills

The primary objective of self-defense classes is to enable the learners to defend themselves in diverse situations of danger such as how to escape an attack, bullying, how to utilize available resources for diffusing a kidnap attempt or an assault and so on. With such tools by their side, kids can travel on their own even during nights safeguarding themselves and their peers.

Teaches signs of danger

The kids learn to understand the signs of danger through their eye and ears. They understand the situation better and are in better position to reciprocate accordingly. The kids also learn the non-physical ways to deal with situation and protect themselves.

Promotes good health and stamina

Such classes improve overall health condition of kids such as stamina, coordination, balance, flexibility, mental strength and improved reflexes. The rigorous warm-up and exercises enhance endurance, body control and muscle toning. It not only helps in fighting back the attack but also transform the physically active kids to strong adults.

Strengthens social skills

                                                               
Kids gain social skills and gain confidence.


The self defense classes are conducted in groups thereby providing opportunity to meet new people, learn together and become friends. In addition, people of different cultures participate in the classes which bring greater understanding for the people and develop tolerance towards each other. The classes teach the students to respect all and develop positive attitude.

Considering all these benefits, I along with my friends organized a self defense workshop under the banner- UJJAWAL BACHPAN, for our daughters and kids of society staff. The kids learned a lot on ways to defend themselves and the importance of being physically fit.

Here are some pics from the event:


self defense trainer teaching the trick to kids
Kids get hands-on experience to handle the attack

Girls participating enthusiastically in self defense workshop

For more details of our event-https://www.facebook.com/ujjawalbachpan/

Request you all to organize such workshops or enroll your children in self defense classes for their safe future. Hope this post benefits you, would love to listen your views and feedback.
Happy parenting!





Thursday, March 1, 2018

Raising your daughter in her tween years

Daughters are the precious gift for parents especially dads. Raising daughters is filled with so much fun and laughter. However, tween times is a bit different. It takes much more than you think to develop a special bond with your daughter in tween years.
                                                  
Raising daughters happily

Your once upon a sweet, little girl can be bitter, moody, drama-queen or self-centered at times.  Nevertheless, she will be an affectionate and mature daughter at other times, to your surprise. Your daughter may not be aware of her mood swings and changes in nature as all these are result of hormones and her newly-discovered status about herself. Despite of this, tween times of your daughter can be a memorable time to cherish for years to come.


It has been a pleasant journey with my daughter. She is very jovial and enthusiastic by nature, spreading laughter wherever she goes. However, it happens when she is not able to take certain things in her stride, gets angry at small issues or just wants to have her own way.

Friday, February 9, 2018

7 tips for parents of tweens and preteens

Raising kids in their initial years is quite different from when kids touch the double digit figure. You can experience the change in their behavior, moods, choices and gradual physical changes. Kids expect more independence and privacy. They think and react differently. They don't want to be treated like kids either.

                                                 
Parenting the tweens and preteens
                                   

This transition phase from kid to tween and then in preteen, needs more attention. As the age progresses of your child, parenting approach needs to be adjusted too accordingly.

So, what can be done so that your tween/ preteen remains connected to you closely. How to handle this transition period and maintain strong relationship? 

Here we have few tips for parents of tweens and preteens for a smoother transition period:

One-to-one time with your tween

Spend some personal time with your son or daughter. Go for evening walk, playing, shopping or just chatting about anything. It can work like daily 15 minutes with Mom, weekly quality time with Dad or any other way which allows kids to open up with both parents individually. The more you listen and less you preach, keeps your communication channel open with your tween.

Participate in activities with them

Their interests are changing- more time on video games, action movies or sports channel. Be with them and participate. Play that video game with them, know what attracts them. Discuss the latest issues that interests them. That ways you will remain updated about their views and feelings.
Let them enjoy their 'me-time'

                                                    
Let the tween enjoy some private time.
There was a time when your cute daughter would run up to you and shared her every little thing with you. However, in tweens or preteens, she may respond differently at times, demanding private time for herself. Accept that, let her be with herself. Avoid interpreting each situation and feeling offended when your child keeps things to herself.

Understand- Its their hormones to blame

Your tween may not be able to express himself in calm ways. There can be mood swings, tantrums and impulsive reactions which even they can't understand or explain. Distractions, attraction towards opposite sex and preoccupation are just so natural in this age, all of us have gone through this phase, isn't it? 

Give them time and space. Talk about the issues they are concerned about. Let them vent out their emotions, whether its anger, irritation, stress, frustration or helplessness, which is extremely important. Listen out everything. Assure them you understand their situation and your love is unconditional despite of their unpredictable behaviour. That ways you can have great connection with your kids in tween or preteen age.

Act, not over-react

Your son picked up a fight with kids in neighborhood and blame them for the mess. You instantly call the parents to keep a check on their kids.

Can you see something missing in this situation? Instead of  understanding what was the situation all about, you quickly jumped to conclusion and reacted accordingly. Such response to the situations does not help kids in tweens to learn to respond in a better way.

Discuss age-appropriate issues with your tween

Soon the kids will experience physical changes in them. They will be curious about such changes and may be embarrassed at times. Its high time to talk about puberty. Explain your daughter about change in her body shape and first periods. Similarly, your son in tween has some queries. Discuss with him honestly so that he is prepared for the changes beforehand.

Consider your response towards older kids

                                                 
Parenting the elder kid and tween


The way you handle the matters related to your older kid, sets the way for siblings as well. Too much liberty or excessive supervision, in both cases, tweens get the clue what to expect from parents. Setting a good example of dealing with elder children certainly helps in raising the tween/ preteen in right direction.

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Sunday, December 31, 2017

Empower your bond with your growing kids in easy steps

           
                                                   

Do you feel you and your kids are living in different zones? Do you realize that you are short of time to connect with your growing kids like you used to? And you seriously want to do something about it to strengthen the magical bond between you and your kids despite of all those hectic schedules, household chores, hobby classes, extra curricular activities of kids, social obligations and so on.

Here are easy steps to EMPOWER your bond with your growing kids:

Five minute wonder: Even five minutes of one-to-one talking with your kid  daily can be so refreshing for both of you and it's not that difficult to trace those moments. You can have a light conversation with your child when you drop her or pick up from school. Else if she is going for a hobby class or for a regular doctor visit, simply inquire about her progress or about her day, will allow her to open up with you. To make it more special, give her a nice hug when you meet her after her school and you can see the renewed connection.

Leave notes for kids: Whenever you feel you won't be able to find time to connect with them, ensure that your absence does not sadden them. Make notes with cute messages, inspiring words which will warm their hearts and place them on their study table, bed or on the door. In case, your growing child has mobile phone then you can share messages and stay in touch.

                                                   

Wish list:  Ask your kids to prepare a list that they want to do with you which probably, they have missed doing with you lately. Prepare your own list as well and compare. Most probably, you will find a couple of things common between theirs' and yours' lists. It can be  playing board game with you, reading out story or even making a dish together in kitchen.

Timer, please: Now this one is interesting to quickly steal some moments. You have a couple of tasks to complete and your daughter wants to play with you. What you can do is to set a timer of say 15 minutes in which you would complete a set of tasks and your kid will finish her tasks as well. Play some good music, set the timer and start executing your tasks. It will be a great way to encourage kids to finish their work and enjoy together.

Share your thoughts: Make it a point to share any incident or funny thought with your kid daily. Crack a joke, narrate your childhood memories or may be discuss things happening around- that's an interesting way to connect with your kid and understand what's going in his mind and his life.

Lend your ears patiently: No matter how important is your email or how boring the incident is for you, listen out to him as whatever he is sharing is important for him and even more important is the person to whom he is sharing.  Your patience of few moments can earn you the bond of lifetime!

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Practice gratitude at home:  Take a moment to thank your children for keeping things back at their place, for making their beds or anything else even if its very little. It makes a lot of difference for them as you acknowledge their contribution and their efforts. In addition, you can see the same habit being infused in them naturally.

Monthly affair:  Frequent outings with kids may be a difficult thing to plan but you can ensure once a month fun filled day in any form. It can be watching movie together, camping in the backyard, traveling, playing under the sun, shopping together, or anything else that gives a chance to have exclusive time with kids.





Thursday, September 21, 2017

Diet tips to ease anxiety in kids

                                                               
                                                               


Anxiety and stress are no longer restricted to adults. These seem to be prevalent among young children and teenagers. The reasons for the increase in everyday anxiety in kids and teenagers can be several such as parental control, family atmosphere, peer pressure, exam stress, school performance, health issues, some kind of phobia/ fears, etc. However, simple changes in diet can defuse the everyday stress.

Here are diet tips to ease anxiety in kids:

                                                             
Omega 3 Fatty acids: Foods rich in Omega 3 fatty acid eases anxiety as they activate production of serotonin levels. Examples of omega 3 fatty acid foods are flax seeds, tofu, and fish. Include these foods in the daily diet of your child and help him calm down.

                                             
                                   

Vitamin B foods: Deficiency of Vitamin B can lead to irritable behavior, confusion, and anxiety. Foods rich in Vitamin B are ideal to counter such issues. Therefore, go for eggs, whole grain foods, citrus fruits, and almonds to fulfill the requirements of Vitamin B in kids.

Foods rich in Tryptophan: Tryptophan naturally relaxes the mind by producing neurotransmitters such as serotonin. It is helpful in regulating sleep and mood. Foods such as turkey, oats, soy, and sesame seeds should be given to anxious kids to relax them.
                                       
                                                                   
Water: Nothing can beat the power of water to de-stress and relax the mind as well as the body. So, encourage your kids to drink plenty of water on a regular basis as it will keep dehydration induced anxiety at bay.

Probiotics: Probiotics such as yogurt restricts harmful bacteria growth and promotes the healthy immune system as well as gut. This ensures reduced stress and anxiety levels.

Avoid fried foods, caffeine, and too sugary foods especially when the child is feeling anxiety. Instead, focus on fruits and vegetables that nourish kids with ample of nutrients.

Besides, kids may tend to overeat when stressed out. Keep healthy foods/ recipes ready so that they reach out to only nutrient-rich foods. Simultaneously, engaging them in indoor or outdoor activities will also help to reduce their stress levels.

Everyday stress can happen but now, you know the above diet tips to ease anxiety in kids.


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Tuesday, December 27, 2016

7 Steps to build Confidence of Your Child

What would you do if you find your growing child is losing confidence? Praise her minutest of actions or shower her with gifts that are actually not required?

That is not going to help much as the child will depend upon you to feel good about herself or may be, she will consider herself above others which is not healthy either. So what all can be done that help her stay confident?

                                                   

Here are simple and easy ways to build confidence of your teenage daughter or son:

Let her make choices

Avoid taking each and every decision on behalf of your kid. Let her decide what works best for her out of certain options such as a 10 year old can be given a chance to decide what dress to buy for her birthday instead of telling what will be good for her. That will boost her confidence a lot.

Let her follow her hobbies/ interests




Your child is interested in theatre or sports then let her join classes and help her to continue her passion. Even if it means rescheduling your day! This will develop her self-esteem and inspire her to accomplish what she started.

Let her have a say in family matters!

On occasions such as Christmas or New Year party, ask kids to give their inputs with respect to decoration, card making, menu, her guest list,etc. This will make them feel important and of course, boost their self-esteem. In daily routine too, give your teen space to decide on usual matters and cooperate in little things such as cooking, tidying up the living room,etc

Allow your teen to take risks

Being overprotective does not let kid take risks and learn from her own experiences. Therefore, allow her to take small risks in your presence. My daughter's friend got stuck in lift and from that moment my 8 year old daughter was scared of going alone in the lift. But I encouraged her and assured that I would stand and watch in front of elevator till she reaches safely. That worked for us and now she confidently takes the elevator alone.

Help her to recover from failures

When she fails to perform as per the expectations of her teachers or peers, her confidence may dip. At that time your words of encouragement and your opinion about the situation can do a lot to build her confidence again. Remind her of her past accomplishments, beautiful experiences and pictures that reflect her positives.

Model healthy self-confidence in front of kids

Your own opinion about yourself and your response to various situations shape the mindset of your kids. Therefore, watch out your actions as you are always monitored by your kids. They are going to follow your footsteps.

Unconditional love

If your acceptance goes beyond the grades and performance of your child then come what may, your child will reflect positive attitude in everything he does. So, love unconditionally even if he fails to perform better or take wrong decisions.


Five parenting tips to impress your kids!

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