What would you do if you find your growing child is losing confidence? Praise her minutest of actions or shower her with gifts that are actually not required?
However, that is not going to help much as the child will depend upon you to feel good about herself or maybe, she will consider herself above others which is not healthy either. So what all can be done that helps her stay confident?
Let her make choices
Avoid taking each and every decision on behalf of your kid. Let her decide what works best for her out of certain options. For example, a 10-year-old can be given a chance to decide what dress to buy for her birthday instead of telling her what will be good for her. That will boost her confidence a lot.
Let her follow her hobbies/ interests
Your child is interested in theatre or sports then let her join classes and help her to continue her passion. Even if it means rescheduling your day! This will develop her self-esteem and inspire her to accomplish what she started.
Let her have a say in family matters!
On occasions such as Christmas or New Year party, ask kids to give their inputs with respect to room decor, card making, menu, her guest list, etc. This will make them feel important and of course, boost their self-esteem.
In daily routine too, give your teen space to decide on usual matters and cooperate in little things such as cooking, tidying up the living room, etc
Allow your teen to take risks
Being overprotective does not let the kid take risks and learn from her own experiences. Therefore, allow her to take small risks in your presence.
My daughter's friend got stuck in the lift and from that moment my 8-year-old daughter was scared of going alone in the lift. But, I encouraged her and assured her that I would stand and watch in front of the elevator until she reaches safely. That worked for us and now she confidently takes the elevator alone.
However, that is not going to help much as the child will depend upon you to feel good about herself or maybe, she will consider herself above others which is not healthy either. So what all can be done that helps her stay confident?
Easy steps to build confidence in your child
Let her make choices
Avoid taking each and every decision on behalf of your kid. Let her decide what works best for her out of certain options. For example, a 10-year-old can be given a chance to decide what dress to buy for her birthday instead of telling her what will be good for her. That will boost her confidence a lot.
Let her follow her hobbies/ interests
Your child is interested in theatre or sports then let her join classes and help her to continue her passion. Even if it means rescheduling your day! This will develop her self-esteem and inspire her to accomplish what she started.
On occasions such as Christmas or New Year party, ask kids to give their inputs with respect to room decor, card making, menu, her guest list, etc. This will make them feel important and of course, boost their self-esteem.
In daily routine too, give your teen space to decide on usual matters and cooperate in little things such as cooking, tidying up the living room, etc
Allow your teen to take risks
Being overprotective does not let the kid take risks and learn from her own experiences. Therefore, allow her to take small risks in your presence.
My daughter's friend got stuck in the lift and from that moment my 8-year-old daughter was scared of going alone in the lift. But, I encouraged her and assured her that I would stand and watch in front of the elevator until she reaches safely. That worked for us and now she confidently takes the elevator alone.
Help her to recover from failures
When she fails to perform as per the expectations of her teachers or peers, her confidence may dip. At that time your words of encouragement and your opinion about the situation can do a lot to build her confidence again.
Remind her of her past accomplishments, beautiful experiences, and pictures that reflect her positives.
Model healthy self-confidence in front of kids
Your own opinion about yourself and your response to various situations shape the mindset of your kids. Therefore, watch out for your actions as you are always monitored by your kids. They are going to follow in your footsteps.
Unconditional love
If your acceptance goes beyond the grades and performance of your child then come what may, your child will reflect a positive attitude in everything he does. So, love unconditionally even if he fails to perform better or take the wrong decisions.
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When she fails to perform as per the expectations of her teachers or peers, her confidence may dip. At that time your words of encouragement and your opinion about the situation can do a lot to build her confidence again.
Remind her of her past accomplishments, beautiful experiences, and pictures that reflect her positives.
Model healthy self-confidence in front of kids
Your own opinion about yourself and your response to various situations shape the mindset of your kids. Therefore, watch out for your actions as you are always monitored by your kids. They are going to follow in your footsteps.
Unconditional love
If your acceptance goes beyond the grades and performance of your child then come what may, your child will reflect a positive attitude in everything he does. So, love unconditionally even if he fails to perform better or take the wrong decisions.
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Some great ways to help children build there own confidence. It's what I do with my daughters, guide them in a direction to make their own choices and decisions. Let them make their own mistakes to learn from and encourage them with their hobbies and interests.
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