Hello fellow Parents,
I hope you are having a good time while raising kids!
In my previous post, I had shared
about the importance of aliveness while parenting
and bringing aliveness in relationships in
various ways. One major aspect that was part of my previous blog was Self-growth. Is it required or not, while you are totally occupied and absorbed in
parenting your kids?
Self-growth or personal growth includes attaining understanding about yourself, your strengths and weakness, and the ways in which you try to achieve your full potential. It also includes-
-acquiring new skills and
habits,
-letting go of such habits or thought the process that dis-empower you or adversely influence your effectiveness
- embracing a new way of life that
invites happiness and abundance for you and people that matter to you.
Parenting versus Self-Growth
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| Which one would you choose- Parenting or Self-growth or both? |
With so much to do while raising
kids, is thinking about Self-growth means being selfish? At times, 24 hours
seem to be less to take care of kids, manage the household chores, grocery
shopping, school visits, home assignments, bill payments, and whatnot. The stay
at home parent or working parent, both finds it difficult to breathe and take a
break. Amid this, thinking about your own self sounds crazy, isn't it?
In addition, you would agree that
parenting and managing home leaves lesser time for personal time or pursuing
some interest. That brings in tiredness, dip in self-esteem, disconnect with
the friends, separated with real-world developments and may sometimes lead to
hopelessness.
While feeling empty
within, can we really contribute much to the lives of our kids and family?
We are no doubt, working hard to make
things possible for the family but deep down in heart, there is a certain desire to
do something for ourselves. Non-fulfillment of the same causes low self-esteem,
depression, guilt, and sadness, especially when the better half is not
even aware of what you are feeling like and you are under the burden of your
own created feelings.
That is where SELF
GROWTH can change the whole scenario. Your attention to your existence
and your development charges you up with hope, energy, and assertiveness. In
several ways, when you actually work for your personal growth, it shows up in
your presence, your behavior, and definitely in your family environment. Believe
me, that inspires your kids too!
The Inspiring Wedding speech of Shashi
in the movie- "English Vinglish"
"English Vinglish" is my favorite movie wherein the lead character, Shashi ( actress Sridevi) is dealing with a lot- lack of empathy from
husband, no recognition of her contribution, callous attitude of her daughter,
struggle to carry forward her hobby of making sweets.
As she is not able to speak the English
language, her own family ridicules her and makes fun of her. But with grit, she
manages to come out of her situation when she visits the USA for her niece's wedding.
Here, she learns the language and delivers wedding speech in English, which is a real inspiration for all.
Sharing with you video of her speech-
Her speech holds inspiration for anyone who feels undervalued and ignored. That is the time to be your own guide and bounce back with confidence. I can relate to her speech in the video as at some point in time, I was surrounded by sadness and no hope for a bright future. I picked myself up started writing and then blogging and now I am leading a team of content writers successfully. This happened when I decided to take a stand for my personal development.
Self-Growth of Parents- How?
As humans, we have a huge scope of personal development, going beyond our barriers, our old school of thought, and embracing a new approach to life. At a human level, we are prone to procrastination, regrets, hopelessness, lack of confidence, self-doubt, and preconceived notions. That affects our parenting style with limited contribution to the quality of life of our family.
However, once we tread on the path of personal growth, we open up the doors to several new things for ourselves and our kids. So, how to achieve personal growth?
Writing Journal
Writing about what made your day beautiful infuses positivism and happiness. Write about your happy moments and the person you would like to thank for the act of kindness.
Pursue a hobby
Indulge in something that you enjoy like gardening, dance, knitting, etc., that enhances your skill and provides you an opportunity to feel content.
Connect with positive people
Meet the people who lift you up, inspire you, help you when you feel low, and enjoy with you. Stay connected to attract the positive flow of thoughts within you.
Discover yourself
Check what makes you happy, what triggers you, whatever that stops you, or scares you. Observe the reason behind and the impact. Meditate to know more about yourself and to calm your self. You can simply download an app for meditation.
Read a lot
Read motivational books or you may listen to a book if you feel less time in hand for reading. Download AUDIBLE or any similar reading app in your device and listen to great thinkers, authors and motivational speakers to broaden your vision for life.
Likewise, discover other ways to support yourself, upgrade yourself, and witness the transformed human in you, the delightful parent for your kids, and inspiring family members!
Thank you so much for the tips was so helpful. Growth chart
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