While it's okay to feel low some times but feeling low about oneself continuously is not a good sign especially among growing kids. Sometimes even as parents we can't estimate the causes of low self-esteem in kids. There can be several reasons that make a child less confident and sadly, at times, parents contribute to low self-confidence in their own child.
Now when a kid has deficient self-esteem then it needs to be rectified before it has severe effect on the psyche and life of the kid. The first step to handle low self-esteem in your growing kid is to ascertain probable reasons of the same. Find out if you as a parent has done or undone something that is hurting the confidence of your child.
Let us check out probable causes of low self-esteem and make sure your tween is not going through the same:
When kid feels neglected:
Absence of personal attention and support of parents may lead to low self-esteem in the kid. Whether parents are occupied in work or over engaged on social media, providing quality time to kids is mandatory to make them feel secure. However, if you can’t keep your hands off from your laptop or mobile while your kid is eager to share his story then he may feel neglected causing dip in confidence.
When you over interfere:
If you are one of those who make sure to instruct their tween now and then or check what they are doing all the time, then the child may feel you don’t trust his abilities. Your over indulgence in his every decision and action may erode his confidence to work and achieve independently. So better, keep a check on your over-caring attitude!
When you forget to appreciate enough:
You remember to pinpoint their mistakes but often forget to appreciate their small achievements or endeavours. Instead of showing the right path, if you become overly critical of his actions or use harsh words for the child, the result is your teen feels he is not good enough.
This is not what you want to happen, right?
When you compare with peers
To boost confidence of your child, you compare her to siblings or peers, but it backfired! Constant comparison of performance or behaviour of your child with others or pushing your kid to become like others will definitely cause a serious damage to her self-esteem. Check this habit before it destroys the self-esteem of your child!
When you do not respect:
Mocking their behaviour in front of your friends or spelling out their weaknesses with other adults disgusts your child. When you try to prove how your child is silly, not good enough or bad at something, he assumes that he is not worthy for his parents.
When you give up on your child:
When you give up the hope that your teenager can improve, he also gives up his hope, you know. Your discouraging attitude and words has a deep negative effect on him that may not be reversible.
So before you expect your child to be responsible, sensible, hardworking or any thing else, check if you have any of the above habits that can damage his self-esteem!
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