While it's okay to feel low sometimes but feeling low about
oneself continuously is not a good sign, especially among growing kids. Sometimes, even as parents, we can't estimate the causes of low self-esteem in kids. Several reasons make a child less confident and sadly, at times, parents
contribute to low self-confidence in their own child.
A kid with low self-esteem feels lonely and left out. |
Reasons that hurt the self-esteem of growing kid
Let us check out
probable causes of low self-esteem and make sure your tween/ teen is not going through the same:
When a kid feels neglected:
The absence of
personal attention and support from parents may lead to low self-esteem in the kid.
Whether parents are occupied with work or over-engaged on social media, providing
quality time to kids is mandatory to make them feel secure. However, if
you can’t keep your hands off your laptop or mobile while your kid is
eager to share his story then he may feel neglected to cause a dip in confidence.
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When you over-interfere:
Being over-caring can adversely affect the confidence of a child. |
If you are one of those who make sure to instruct their tween now
and then or check what they are doing all the time, then the child may feel you
don’t trust his abilities. Your overindulgence in his every decision and
action may erode his confidence to work and achieve independently. So better,
keep a check on your over-caring attitude!
When you forget to appreciate enough:
You remember to pinpoint their mistakes but often forget to
appreciate their small achievements or endeavors. Instead of showing the right
path, if you become overly critical of his actions or use harsh words for the
child, the result is your teen feels he is not good enough.
This is not what you want to happen, right?
When you compare with peers:
To boost the confidence of your child, you compare her to siblings or
peers, but it backfired! Constant comparison of the performance or behavior of
your child with others or pushing your kid to become like others will
definitely cause serious damage to her self-esteem. Check this habit before
it destroys the self-esteem of your child!
When you do not respect:
Mocking their behavior in front of your friends or spelling out
their weaknesses with other adults disgust your child. When you try to prove
that your child is silly, not good enough or bad at something, he assumes that
he is not worthy of his parents.
When you give up on your child:
When you give up the hope that your teenager can improve, he also
gives up his hope, you know. Your discouraging attitude and words have a deep
negative effect on him that may not be reversible.
So, before you expect your child to be responsible, sensible, or anything else, check if you have any of the above habits that can damage his self-esteem. I hope these parenting tips for preteens and tweens will go a long to building healthy relationships with your growing child.
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